I've been thinking to quite an extent on this one..."does a person change as such?"
From what I've experienced in life, certain behaviours are learned and others are expressed through the change in environment (externally) and/or with respect to the person's current situation.
Here's an example.
Have you ever met somebody back from school who was plain bad? Smoking, causing disruption in class, had fights at school and perhaps bullied you or someone you knew?
I'm very certain many of you, including myself, has memories of at least a few.
Fast forward a few years (in SOME cases) that bad ass has turned out to be a father...with a job...living in an alright apartment and gorgeous girlfriend/partner.
"How did that happen!?" will play through most of our minds...and I think i've got an explanation for the phenomenon.
Every human born, no matter where you're from is not naturally bad. It is your environment that shapes you to be the way you are in order to survive. If home environment is rough...then you become tough...maybe even the bad ass mentality helps your survival.
Being that way is the only way you know so that part of you is always expressed first.
Then one day, he meets a girl that blows him away...he appears to change...a more gentle and thoughtful person appears.
Nope!!!! Disagree!!! NO human changes, we express different parts of ourselves in front of different people and environment.
The gentler side was always within him.
My theory is that, good friends, a loving partner and the ideal environment will allow the good part of anyone to be expressed.
It will look like a change has happened but I can assure you, put that same person back in the bad environment...he or she will express survival mode.
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